I may not have revealed this yet, but Agent Romance is a huge nerd. I guess this comes as no surprise at all, as she wears a pink trench coat, fancies herself a Film Noir-style secret agent and talks about herself in the third person. No really, I’m a big geek. I like all those geeky things like sci-fi, fantasy, vampires and superheroes. I’m in love with the 9th incarnation of Doctor Who and right now, I’m wasting hours of every day trying to catch up on 10 seasons of Supernatural. (Castiel is obviously my fav on that show. We trenchcoated fictional characters need to stick together.)
Turns out I am not alone in the universe, there are a lot of other geeks out there like me. And I mean, just like me – grown-ass women who gets a little too excited about certain celebrities and dream of going to Comic-Con someday. I actually formed a club which I named The League of Overaged Fangirls. I am not making this up. We have 50 members and just did a Secret Santa exchange. My living room now smells like 221B Baker Street.
This is all by way of saying that is much easier to be true to yourself and your ideals when you have a posse to go with you on your crazy adventures. This is true in life, geekdom and business.
We all want to belong
When I started my Pure Romance business, I was new to the area and knew very few people. I signed up under a college friend who lived on the other side of the country and then, afterwards, realized that this left me without local support. Not only was I lacking in an established network to build my business on, I didn’t know a thing about the local consultants. Would they be friendly? See me as competition? What?
Fortunately, Pure Romance has just launched a new message board about the time I started and I went online one day to see if anyone nearby had a product I need on short notice. A consultant replied and we met to do the exchange. I remember being so intimidated. She was blond (us dark-haired girls are always slightly intimidated by blonds. I blame the culture.) and cutely dressed in sunglasses and Ugg boots. Way, way, way cooler than me. Still, a contact was a contact, and I asked if I could shadow her sometime. She said yes and as her team grew, she started having her own meetings and I attended.
Friends are way better than competition
I don’t think anyone likes having enemies (except for plot purposes, of course.) I’m not super fond of even having rivals, honestly. Friendly competition to better each other, yes. Threatened territorialism, no. I resolved a long time ago to lovingly force my friendship on anyone who I saw as my equal or better. I just can’t stand the feeling of envy and instead bury it in sincere, if overly ardent, admiration. My experience with this other consultant and her team has been no different. They are amazing and I make my adoration of them known.
What I didn’t expect was what I got in return: They like me too. Me, the awkward geek girl who was never popular in school because she was a non-blond, non-Ugg wearing nerd. They like me a lot. For the first time in my life, I’ve got a tribe of women surrounding me, sorority-like and…it’s so amazing. They cheer me on toward my goals, help me out when I need a hand and actually come to me for advice now. It’s crazy.
So, here I am: Pure Romance consultant and Queen of the Nerds
I’ve got people. And they’re awesome. And I feel awesome. And it’s amazing.
Do you have a tribe? If not, what are you interests. Find out what you love and find other people who love it too. And be awesome together.