I was at my son’s physical therapist’s last week paying a bill and I remembered the first time I saw him run. As I have mentioned before, my older kiddo is a really bright boy, but where he has brilliance in some areas, he lags behind in others. His gross motor skills have always been wobbly. Most kids learn to run all on their own. It’s just a natural progression of walking into a insane preschool mischief. My little guy though, was a late walker and instead of running, developed this funny stiff-legged shuffle he used to get quickly from place to place. When we finally got him to a pediatric physical therapist, she had to teach him how to bend his knees so he could learn to run. It never occurred to me before that point that running is something you could teach and that some people need practice to learn.
Basic skills don’t always come naturally
I don’t know about the rest of you, but the experience of sex was sort of surprising in the same way. I mean, we all get a crash course in the basic mechanics in high school health class. Maybe, like me, you devour Cosmo articles on the particulars, but really, we all watch movies and those images stick. It looks easy. You put on some R&B, kiss, take off your clothes and fall into bed. Easy peasy. Animals figure it out with no problem. It’s natural. We should all just get it, right?
Well, maybe not so much. There’s things to learn. Stuff they don’t tell you about in health class and they certainly don’t show in movies – even in a lot of porn. It maybe natural, but it doesn’t always come naturally and almost none of us are very good at it right off. I think most of us muddle through fine and eventually get better, but it’s always okay to seek out expert advice. That’s what therapists, doctors and Pure Romance consultants are for. And we shouldn’t be embarrassed to ask for help. Nor should we be embarrassed when it takes a practice to really get it right.
The beauty of learning
Imagine if you never learned to run. Like really run. Arms pumping, legs flying, hair in the wind. As adults, unless it is our exercise of choice, we probably don’t run much, but you remember what it was like as a kid. Nothing better than just going until your limbs felt like they were going to fall off. It’s one of the best things in the world.
Sex is the same way. So are a lot of things that don’t always come quickly or naturally at first. Many of life greatest pleasures take practice to perfect. For some, they even take a little outside help…and aren’t we glad that it’s available?
Run, baby, run
We had been at the physical therapist for about year when one day, the PT specialist came out to get my son before a session and asked him if he was ready to start. To both our surprise, he took off RUNNING ahead of her. It was the first time I had ever seen him run – really run. It was a beautiful thing.
Our bodies are amazing. Life is wonderful. Figure out how it all works. Find help if you need it. Practice. And then RUN.